This is the age of playdates.
These playdates double as a way for us moms to hang out and socialize with the moms of kids the same age as our kids.
However, if playdates aren’t really your thing, and you turn down a couple of invitations, or don’t cook up big elaborate schemes of our own, you might find that you start to get left out or forgotten in social events.
While this is not altogether a bad thing — I mean solitude can be good for the soul — it can be a little bit hard on one’s feelings. It can also hurt the little one’s feelings when they realize they didn’t get invited to that birthday party on Saturday, or to the skating party that “so and so” put together.
Sometimes being a Mom is a tough job, and a little kindness from your peers can go a long way. So even though there may be that one Mom friend or acquaintance in the mix that is a little standoff-ish, or seems unapproachable, give her a chance.
Here are three reasons you should befriend the Unpopular Mom:
1. She Has Kids
That right there.
Either her kids will play with your kids, or they won’t. But does it matter? The woman has kids, she needs a break, a kind gesture, and an invitation to be a part of “the village.” Even if only for an afternoon. For whatever reason, this Mom may only have the ability to participate in one social outing or event a year, and the one invite she accepts might be yours.
2. She Knows Stuff
Regardless of who this Mom is, she is going to know something you don’t.
She may possess skills and or knowledge you never heard of. She may have the answer to the perpetually running toilet that has been aging your bathroom for half a decade. She might even know how to turn rose petals into curtains, or have the most amazing secret recipe for homemade bubbles you could ever dream of. Point is, you won’t know it until you talk to her. Try inviting her to your next shindig to get to know her.
3. It’s Good Manners
The Unpopular Mom knows she isn’t getting invited, and she knows her kids are being snubbed too. She may not let on — but let’s be real here — her feelings are hurt.
Let’s focus on inclusionism (new word!) and set a good example for our kids. We can all benefit and grow from a little more patience, kindness and tolerance, and manners.
Your personal bubble aside, the more people you can include the better. Go ahead, invite the Unpopular Mom. After all, you hardly even know her.