Inside: Some people might say you don’t need friends as much when you start a family. I’d argue just the opposite — we moms need girlfriends more than ever!
“I can’t believe it’s already been two months since the last time we got together!”
Catching up over brunch with my girlfriends, we marveled that the last time we saw each other was around Thanksgiving. Could it really have been that long??
These are my ride or dies.
These are the girls I cried to when my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I got into a fight.
These are the girls that celebrate every birthday, that toasted me on my wedding day, that I know would drop everything if I needed them.
But I don’t call them as often as I should.
Time has a way of blazing right past us, and before we know what happens, it’s been weeks or even months since we last got together with our girlfriends.
If your best girlfriends live in another city or state (as many of mine do now), then it could be even longer!
But why in the world do we wait so long??
As moms, we need girlfriends now more than maybe any other point in our lives!
Why Moms Need Girlfriends More than Ever
Some people might tell you that you don’t need your girlfriends as much when you get married or start a family. I’d argue just the opposite — we moms need girlfriends more than ever!
When we become moms, our identity becomes wrapped up in our family. Did everyone eat breakfast? Is there gymnastics today? Who needs a bath tonight? Wait…when was the last time I took a shower??
As a stay at home mom, there are days that I don’t even leave my house! (Please tell me I’m not the only one who gets to 9 o’clock at night and realizes that I forgot to brush my teeth that morning and I’m still in my pajamas. Anyone??)
A couple hours with my girlfriends and I feel like a real person again. Someone who has a life outside of being a mom.
I’ve seen “expert” claims that moms need to take regular weekend “mom-cations” for their “sanity.” Yea, that’s great and all, but how many of us are actually able to get away for days at a time when you have kids?
Honestly, just a few hours away from my family is enough for me to feel recharged and start missing them again.
Don’t get me wrong — I love my kids!
They light up my world and make every day an adventure! But sometimes you just need grown-up conversation.
You might be thinking, “What about your husband? He’s a grown-up!”
I love my husband more than anything in the world, and I never get tired of talking to him (really!) — but we moms need girl talk too!!
Also, I’m pretty sure my husband gets tired of hearing the same stories over and over. But my girlfriends never do!
My husband will politely listen to a story about one of my high school adventures — and then afterwards he’ll let me know that this is the 100-billionth time I’ve told him.
My best friend Megan on the other hand will not only listen, but she’ll join in with all the details I forgot.
If your husband ever complains about girl time, remind him that it’s in his best interest! That way you can reminisce on all your favorite memories with the girls and get your fill of girl talk.
Forget mom-cations — it’s girl talk that moms really need!
When Was the Last Time You Called Your Girlfriends?
Y’all…I’m almost ashamed to admit the last time I called my best friend in the whole world. She lives in Florida and has two kids of her own, so we’re both busy.
But is that really an excuse??
How many times has “being busy” stopped you from picking up the phone and calling your girlfriends?
Stop waiting and make the call!
The great thing about girlfriends is that no matter how long its been since you last talked, you can pick up right where you left off last time.
One More Thing for My Girlfriends without Kids:
Please don’t forget about us moms!
We might not be able to attend everything, but we’re SO SO SO SO happy to get an invite!
And when we are able to make it to girls night, we promise not to show you too many baby pictures. Unless you ask, that is!
Don’t Wait to Make the Call
At brunch this past weekend, we all shared what was going on in our lives.
It came out that a couple of our crew were going through some really hard times. There were tears and hugs, and we asked each other: “why didn’t you tell us that you were going through this?”
Your girlfriends will drop everything for you. Remember that and don’t be afraid to reach out when you need them.
On the other side, don’t forget to check in on your girlfriends. If it’s been a while since you last talked, you might not know what they’re going through. They might need you and not think to ask.
Let’s all make the commitment to do better by our girlfriends. These are relationships that will last us for the rest of our lives — we need to cherish and nurture them.
I called my best friend this week — now go call yours! 😉
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