Dear Husband: I'm Not the Same Girl You Married

Dear husband: I want to apologize.

I’m not the same girl you married.

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Dear Husband: I’m Not the Same Girl You Married

Maybe you’ve noticed…

I’m different now.

I’m not quite as trim anymore.

My skin isn’t as smooth as it used to be.

When we met, I tried to impress you by always making sure I was dressed in my best clothes. My hair was always fixed. I wore makeup.

These days you’ll most often find me in yoga pants. There are even some days where I’m so busy around the house that I forget to change out of my pajamas. There are some days where I’m so tired from waking up throughout the night with a teething baby that I don’t want to change out of them.

On days where I “dress up,” that means I put on a pair of real jeans. I can’t promise that they’re not mom jeans though.

Makeup is reserved for special occasions. And even then we’re usually in such a hurry that I only manage to slap on some tinted moisturizer, mascara and lip gloss.

The “messy bun” is my signature hair style. And even then, my messy bun doesn’t quite look like the cute up-dos you see in magazines. It’s kind of just…well…messy.

I know I don’t have as much time for you as I used to. And I know that I’m tired all the time. (Mom life is hard work y’all!)

And I’m truly sorry.

But here’s the thing…

I did it all for you.

My body will never look like the cute little college girl you met because I gave you our beautiful children.

I don’t have time to spend hours in front of the mirror because I am working hard to grow my business that supports our family and raising strong daughters.

I wear workout clothes because they pull double-duty, and because I’d rather spend the money making sure our girls get the best in life.

And every day thoroughly wears me out, so I don’t always have as much energy as I did in the early days of our marriage.

But it’s ok, because I know that you love this “new” woman even more.

Every day you tell me I am beautiful. And even though I don’t always feel like it, I appreciate that you say it.

Every day I see you watching our girls play, and I notice a look in your eyes that says you have everything you want in the world. I’m proud that I am able to give that to you.

You’re not the same man I met either.

No longer are you living for yourself — your life revolves around your family. You continue to grow and mature, and I’m honored to be with you on this journey.

You are our rock and I know you will keep our family safe through anything life throws our way.

We will never be the people we once were.

Our faces will only gain more wrinkles. Our hair will only turn more gray.

We might find a little more energy when the kids are grown, but undoubtably we will have gone through some #%^$ before we get there!

I’m not sure exactly where life will take us, but as long as we’re going together, I’m all in.

Love,

Your wife

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Stacey aka the Soccer Mom

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