Inside: Psychologists say that for a healthier relationship, you should kiss your spouse for 7 seconds a day. Keep reading for a marriage challenge that anyone can do, with instant results!
Have you ever gotten to the end of the day and realized that you hadn’t kissed your husband at all?
This happens more than I’d like to admit, though it’s usually an accident!
We’re a busy family. I’m sure you are too.
When you’re trying to get everyone out the door in the morning, chores done, meals cooked, squeeze in a workout, it’s romance that often gets pushed out. It’s not necessarily on purpose, but more a result of our busy schedules and feeling tired at the end of the day.
However, you can make a conscious choice to keep the romance alive, and it’s not as difficult as you’d think!
Psychologists Recommend Daily Passionate Kisses for a Healthier Relationship
Phycologists say that to maintain a healthy relationship, you should kiss your partner at least once a day, though ideally three times or more.
It might seem like a no-brainer, but on those especially busy days it’s easy to forget to take a few seconds to show your spouse that you love them.
According to researchers, 7 seconds is the magic number when it comes to kissing.
How Often Should You Kiss Your Husband Every Day?
Not only do experts recommend kissing your partner 3 times daily, but one of those kisses should be a “passionate kiss” that lasts a minimum of 7 seconds.
Just a few reasons that kissing your spouse every day enriches a relationship:
- It’s fun!
- Kissing is a form of non-verbal communication with your partner, necessary for a strong relationship.
- Locking lips builds intimacy.
- Kissing releases happy brain chemicals, like oxytocin, which makes you both feel better and lowers stress.
- It can create arousal and desire for your partner.
Interestingly, a recent study shows that oxytocin (released by your brain when you kiss), not only makes you feel happy, but it also helps build trust in your partner. And we all know that trust is crucial for a long-lasting relationship!
Touch is Important Too
In addition to daily passionate kisses, you can also reaffirm your love by touching your partner. This can be as simple as laying your hand on theirs when you speak to them. Touch adds instant intimacy and connection.
I can attest to this!
A few months ago a woman’s book club I belong to read the book Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood by Becky Thompson (a super talented blogger and author).
The book is a 21-day challenge to guide women and moms in reflecting, refocusing and re-centering on your marriage. The challenges are surprisingly simple, but amazingly effective. They are all things you can do even as a busy mom – because the point is to simplify and strengthen your marriage even in the middle of all the craziness of our lives.
One of the challenges focused on touching your husband throughout the day.
The premise was simple: incorporate gentle touch into your daily interactions with your husband (without telling him about the challenge). Nothing sexual, just physical touch.
Perhaps it was grabbing his hand and holding it as we walked into the grocery store.
Or walking up behind him and rubbing his shoulders as he washed dishes.
A few days into the challenge my husband asked what our book was about — he said that he could tell I was “up to something” but that he didn’t mind (actually, he liked it) so he didn’t say anything.
What I realized through this simple exercise is that we often go throughout our days side by side, but lacking physical intimacy.
Even more amazing is what a difference making a deliberate effort to add back some of the intimacy that you’ve lost over the years.
Simple ways to add physical intimacy to your day:
- kiss your spouse before they go to work in the morning
- hug whenever you enter the same room
- touch your partner when you speak to them
- hold hands while walking
- greet your partner with a kiss when they return home
See – easy stuff right? But you’d be surprised how effective these little actions can be!
Want to Take the Marriage Challenge I Did?
If you want to try the 21-day marriage challenge that I did with my book club, you can grab a copy of the book on Amazon: Love Unending: Rediscovering Your Marriage in the Midst of Motherhood by Becky Thompson
This isn’t a compensated review or anything like that — I simply enjoyed the book and enjoyed the results of the challenge even more! (And so did my husband!)
Have you tried this marriage challenge? I’d love to hear how it went in the comments below!