Three Steps to Stop Temper Tantrums on the Spot

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What’s inside: A simple, 3-step approach to stop temper tantrums before they get out of control.

“What the heck did I get myself into?!”

When you’re dealing with a child who is in the middle of a hysterical temper tantrum, you start to question your life decisions. (Ok, not entirely…BUT it can be extremely emotionally draining!)

The key to stop temper tantrums is to neutralize the situation before it can escalate to a full-blown, laying on the floor, screaming, won’t listen to reason, snotty-nosed temper tantrum.

The good news: it’s easier than you might think, and both you and your child come out winners.

I’ll keep it real with you.

My girls do get upset. They cry. They act defiant sometimes. However, I manage to nip most of their fussing in the bud before it ever gets to 5-alarm temper tantrum status.

These three simple steps give me control of the situation, while allowing my girls to feel like they’ve been heard.

To be quite honest, these tips would be very useful in dealing with any adults in your life that act difficult too!

3 Simple Steps to Stop Temper Tantrums on the Spot

Do these in order and you’ll often be able to diffuse a situation within seconds, or a couple minutes.

Get Down on Their Level

It’s easy for a child to tune you out if you’re talking two feet above their head. Not so much if you’re right in front of them! Anytime I want to make sure that my girls are listening to me, I squat down so that we are face to face.

Make Eye Contact

Once you’re face to face with your child, look them dead in the eye. It’s likely to catch them off guard, distracting them enough to cause a break in the tantrum. That break is just what you need to begin to talk them down.

Eye contact is a sign of respect (even if children don’t consciously know this, they feel it!) and they’re more likely to listen.

Get Serious

When have my child’s attention, I let them know I mean business by using my “serious” voice.

I don’t mean yelling, or even raising my voice — quite the opposite! I actually lower my voice, talking slow, steady, and firmly.

I learned and practiced this working with horses. When a horse acts out, you must remain calm to de-escalate the situation. If you become upset or yell, it will only cause them to become upset too!

It Worked on Me…

Growing up, the one person that I NEVER wanted to disobey was my Grandad.

He wasn’t loud and he didn’t get excited. All it took was a stern look and his “serious” voice to get all of us cousins sitting quietly within seconds!

When trying to stop temper tantrums, less is definitely more!

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Last updated on February 15th, 2019 at 08:18 pm

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